In the last few weeks, a few different people have chatted with me about some relationship issues they were having. While I will never claim to be an expert on relationships, I do know this, from experience...
1) Don’t accept less than your worth.
2) Ask for what you want.
I know I’m not the first person to say these things but I think we all need reminding sometimes. Don’t let someone reduce you to a lesser version of yourself because its convenient for them. And don’t expect them to “just know” what you want. You are the only one who can stand up for you and ask for what you want. Of course you have to know what that is first. *hint, hint*
I know that can be a scary thing, actually asking for what you want, for what your worth. Maybe they don’t want the same things or won’t accept you for who you are. Maybe they can’t give you what you need and maybe they will walk away. BUT maybe they will hear you and accept you and love you even more for being true to yourself. And isn’t that what you deserve? Someone who loves you the way you want to be loved for exactly who you are!
Now I'm not telling anyone to just jump ship when the first problem arises. There is work to keep a relationship fresh and going! There has to be compromise to make relationships work. Just not the kind that compromises who you are and what you want in life. See I know, for certain, that there is a person out there for everyone. Your ideal person, if they aren’t next to you right now, is out there. And if you accept less that what you want and deserve, you could be missing out on your chance to be really loved.
So get clear on what you want in a partner and if you have someone don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. You might be surprised at the conversation that follows! Maybe your partner needs something too and together you can work out how to make your relationship stronger.
The bottom line is you deserve happiness! We all do! So ask for it. Let the universe know what you want so it can send it back to you!
You want proof? I'm engaged to the perfect man for me. He is all the things I have ever wanted in another person and I didn’t meet him until I got clear on what I wanted. When I was single, I visualized my perfect guy. I thought about what we would do together and how we would act together. I thought about how I would feel being in a relationship with him. I didn’t know what he looked like or where he was but I just believed in my heart he was out there. We met a few weeks later and I am grateful every single day for him and that I knew what I wanted when he walked into my life!