Friday, January 11, 2013

Go ahead, change your mind!


A few words on changing your mind. It’s. Okay.

Okay, well, I guess that was only 2 words! It works though. 

I know everyone is setting goals and making fresh resolutions with the New Year. As an aspiring coach, I love this! Yes! Go for what you want! Live your best life! Cross off things on your bucket list! Do it all!  AND......it’s okay to change your mind. 

Being a coach is all about clarifying what you want in life and sometimes part of that is knowing when what you think you want isn’t what you really want. You pickin’ up what I’m puttin’ down?  When you set a goal, make a decision, choose what road to turn down, sometimes you realize, Woah, this isn’t right for me! But now you’ve committed to this goal/dream/decision/job and told all your friends and family about it. So now your gut says “this isn’t right” but your head says “well, If I quit now it will look bad”. The truth is, it’s okay and it doesn’t matter what others think as long as you are doing what is right for you. You know better than anyone what is right for you and the more you clarify what you want in life, the faster you will know if something does or does not align with what you want and who you want to be! 

Now I’m not saying just to quit things on any whim but I am saying when you have a deep gut feeling about something, listen to it! If that means turning around, taking a  step back, or quitting don’t look at it as a bad thing. Look at it as helping you get one step closer to being clearer on what you want.

True Story- A few years ago I decided to walk away from a full time job for a freelance job that would hopefully turn into a full time job. I thought I really wanted to work for this company and was willing to pay my own health benefits for a few months to prove it.

The first day was a disaster. The guy who was suppose to show me around wasn’t there so no one knew what to do with me. The person who set up my computer spelled my name wrong and then told me I had to put a ticket in with IT to get it fixed. (He was IT and was the one who set it up!) The whole day I had a pit in my stomach and I cried my self home in the car that night. I knew in my gut something wasn’t right and I quit the next day. Was I worried about what people would think? Hell yes, but I knew, I KNEW I needed to change my mind. I called my boss from my old job and asked to come back. She was great about it and happy to have me back! I won’t say it was the easiest to do but it was the right thing for me. AND I was very happy at that company for years. 

Sometimes the right answer is to change your mind. Listen to your instincts. You know what’s right for you!

2 comments:

  1. Love this. I heard a doctor on the radio say that you should never base your life decisions on what others will think of you because no one thinks about anyone but themself for more than 30 seconds. Kind of depressing if everyone is really that self absorbed, but kind of liberating too!

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    1. Thanks Jocelyn! I've heard that too! It took me a long time to fully understand this but it's really true that if you live your life to please others, there is no way you will ever really be happy for yourself. You gotta do whats right for you!

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