Friday, March 29, 2013

Gettin' a little sappy for a good reason




Today is quite a special day. It’s Good Friday, the start of a holiday weekend, a vacation day from work AND most importantly it’s the day my magnificent mom was born!  

So much of who I am comes directly from my mom.  From the day I was born she has been my constant. When I was little, she read me books before bed until SHE fell asleep. She frequently locked the Monkees and/or the Ghostbusters IN my closet because they were making so much noise I couldn’t sleep. She tolerated HOURS of watching Mary Poppins. (yes, I can still quote the movie and yes, it’s still one of my favorites.)  She washed and sewed up my favorite bunny, Fuzzy, more times than I can count. (I still have him to this day and I will be 30 in June, don’t judge) She has been there for every bump, scrape and bruise literally and figuratively along the way. 

My mom has given me so much but I think one of her greatest gifts is her love for my family. It’s the little things she does to show us all how much she cares. A clean house, coming home from college to her having done your laundry. A phone call every day just to check in and see how you are doing. Cards for each holiday and sometimes just to say hi. Text messages just to say have a wonderful day. Sunday morning breakfasts complete with frisbee sized pancakes. (seriously, this woman needs her own pancake house, you would be amazed!) It’s the hugs she gives freely and the way she signs my name with a heart over the “i”. It’s in how she takes time to put up pictures of all of us and our friends. Tom and I had only been dating a few months and when I brought him home for maybe the second time, she already had photos of us together on the fridge!  She just makes everyone feel welcome.

You know when I was watching the Brene Brown talk last sunday, she talked about the greatest gift a  parent's can give their children is to let them know that you see them and love them for who they are and that they belong. That resonated so much with me because that’s exactly what my mom does. She see’s me for who I really am and I know with out a shadow of a doubt that I belong. I am loved and I belong. Sometimes in life that is all you need to know to keep going. 

My mom is one of my hero’s. She is my best friend, my greatest supporter, my shopping buddy, coffee pal and one of my best teachers. There is just no way to put into words how grateful I am to have her as a mom. So mom, Happy Birthday from one of your greatest admirers. I love you more than words and I can’t wait to celebrate with you this weekend! 

Son of a nutcracker! Let’s drink some wine! :)

Happy friday everyone, now go hug someone you love!




Monday, March 25, 2013

Monday Motivation




Today's motivation is from a new singer/song writer, Kacey Musgraves. A friend of mine introduced me to her and I just love her music. This lyric is from the song "Silver Lining".

This is a live version of her song but check out her new album on iTunes!


Sunday, March 24, 2013

Triple Snuggle Sunday




What a Sunday! I knew today was going to be a good day because it started with the rare “triple snuggle.” 

Triple snuggle: when your queen size bed is full because not only are you and your significant other sleeping in on a lazy sunday but so are your 3 pets.

How does this look? It starts with a puppy between the two of you sleeping belly up, snoring like a freight train. Then add a 23 pound cat sleeping between your knee’s, sprawled out as far as he can go on his side. Finally end with a 16 pound cat snuggled in the crook of your left arm, purring as loud as possible. I could get annoyed about all the warm bodies and noise but I just feel so loved in these moments. They just love us and want to be near by. We are one crazy pack but its a pack of love. Even as I write this I’m getting snuggled by 2 of the 3. It’s just the sweetest thing.

Keeping this theme of lovey dovey sunday. I watched today’s episode of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday. If you don’t know about this program yet check out the website here. She interviews todays spiritual leaders and it’s just eye opening.  Today’s episode was with one of my favorite author’s, Brene Brown. I know I’ve mentioned her before and I’m so excited Oprah interviewed her. Here is part of her bio from her website.... BrenĂ© Brown, Ph.D., LMSW has spent the past decade studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness and shame.

Tough topics, right? For me, one’s that hit close to home and I think need to be talked about more. If you get a chance, watch the first part of the interview here. If you don’t have an ah-ha moment yourself, I will be surprised! 

There were so many parts that resonated with me that I have a feeling you’re gonna see a ton of quotes coming from these interviews! So much inspiration! I’m working on figuring out my coaching niche and what I want my practice to be about.  Todays’ Super Soul Sunday is really helping me get clear on it! Here is just one of the quote’s that resonated with me...

 “In the absence of love and belonging there will always be suffering.” -Brene Brown

Does that hit you too? Love and belonging. That’s what we are looking for, what we need to feel whole. I am loved and I belong. 

She went on to say that what we all want is to be seen and heard. Really seen and heard. We have so many “light” relationships these days. Yet, it’s the people who really get us, really see who we are, really take the time to know us, and love us for that person, that mean the most. I want to spend my time with those people. They are truly gifts. I think I am blessed with folks like this in my life and I am just starting to really understand how amazing that is!

So here is to lazy Sunday’s with Triple snuggles, love, belonging, and bacon...Because bacon is for Sundays!

Friday, March 22, 2013

©swigosunshine



It’s friday. Pull up a chair and let’s catch up. Or rather I’ll catch you up on life around here! It’s been quiet on the blog for a while now. There has just been so much happening behind the scenes here that needed my focus. I have to admit, I’ve been avoiding the blog a bit. (eek) Sounds crazy right? but see I felt guilty about not writing and I have to admit I’ve had writers block for a while now. Things were just flowing out of me when I started the blog. I mean I had a journal with me at all times because ideas were just flying out of my head. bam, bang, boom! Then life got busier and I’ve been struggling to keep it all together ever since. 

Stress got me. Between work during the day, classes at night, coaching, wedding planning, and one adorable puppy. I just lost it.  I’m a recovering perfectionist. I want to do it all and be perfect at it. The list in my head read like this: have a spotlessly clean house, provide rockin ideas at work, write amazing blog content,  give great coaching, have a perfectly behaved puppy (try making that happen), spend quality time with Tom, get exercise, eat healthy, oh yea and try to sleep somewhere in there too. I was over stressed, over whelmed, and my head was so full of what I needed to do that it blocked any and all creativity. I was just trying to get through each day, to get to the weekend, so I could actually relax for a few minutes. I was agitated because I wasn’t getting any “take care of me” time and becoming angrier by the second. I was sick of myself! Everything was priority so nothing was therefore not much was getting done. I needed a change!

I’m a big believer in the power of thought. I kid you not the week I felt like I was really going down I found out I won a session with my favorite coach, Michelle Ward, the When I Grow Up Coach. Ask and ye shall receive says the universe! Michelle helped me re-prioritize and get my head back in the game. The next day I decided I wasn’t going to be unhappy anymore. I had so much to be thankful for and so many great things happening that it was ridiculous to let stress take away my happiness. So the next day I woke up and set the intention to Be Happy. No matter what happened that day! If something happened that started to set me down the grumpy gills path I started counting all the things that I was greatful for and you know what? That was the first day in a while, that I came home and said to Tom “ you know what, it was crazy today but I feel really good” 

Gratitude. Ain’t nobody NOT got time for dat. (If you don’t get that joke, go look up sweet brown right now!)

Everyday since I’ve been feeling better and better. Now I’m not saying thats the only thing that changed. Ganon is growing so fast and learning even faster. We aren’t totally potty trained but we don’t have to watch him liek hawks anymore either. Puppy daycare has been a God send too! (Seriously, I can’t say enough good things about it.) I started with a new peer coach, who is wonderful! Work has started to calm a bit and dear Lord thank you for daylight savings time! I need the sun, people!!

The biggest change though... my attitude, my perception of things. It’s like having a bunch of glasses with different color lenses. Say you’ve been wearing your green colored lenses for a while. Eventually you start to think everything is tinted green. You forget you have glasses on even! It seems like nothing will ever change color! Then you remember, oh right, I have rose color glasses too! You change your perception of things.  I needed to look at what was going on in life differently. I needed to see I wasn’t stuck, or under water. Things were changing and still are. It was just the in-between!

I needed to get over the guilt of not being perfect either. Perfectionism is for the birds. (Actually, I doubt they care!) Its EXHAUSTING trying to be perfect and the reality is, folks would rather you just be you anyway. No one is perfect. People forget things. They leave dishes in the sink and mail on the counter.  They get stressed and things fall through the cracks. Its life. It will get better. I felt guilty about not writing on the blog, as though I was letting everyone down and more importantly myself down. I realized though that if I wasn’t living life and going through “stuff” I wouldn't have anything to write about anyway. You have to practice what you preach and the last few months gave me plenty of time to practice!

If you’re having a stressful patch right now too. Hang in there, I swear it’s gonna get better! Sometimes you have to go through the opposite of what you want to be able to appreciate the thing you want when you get them. In the mean time, try on some new glasses and remember it’s not forever...it’s just for now!

Alright, now let’s go spike our coffee with Bailey’s! Hey, It’s friday!


Sunday, March 17, 2013

The luck of the Irish to ye!


 Why can't you borrow money from a leprechaun? 
 Because they're always a little short. 

Friday, March 15, 2013

Searchers



"I am one of the searchers.
There are, I believe, millions of us. We are not unhappy, but neither are we really content. We continue to explore life, hoping to uncover its ultimate secret. We continue to explore ourselves, hoping to understand.
We like to walk along the beach, we are drawn by the ocean, taken by its power, its unceasing motion, its mystery and unspeakable beauty. We like forests and mountains, deserts and hidden rivers, and the lonely cities as well. Our sadness is as much a part of our lives as is our laughter. To share our sadness with one we love is perhaps as great a joy as we can know – unless it be to share our laughter.
We searchers are ambitious only for life itself, for everything beautiful it can provide. Most of all we love and want to be loved. We want to live in a relationship that will not impede our wandering, nor prevent our search, nor lock us in prison walls; that will take us for what little we have to give. We do not want to prove ourselves to another or compete for love.
For wanderers, dreamers, and lovers, for lonely men and women who dare to ask of life everything good and beautiful. It is for those who are too gentle to live among wolves."

James Kavanaugh


 Earlier this week a lovely virtual friend of mine ( aka a friend you've met through online classes but never actually met!) Kerilyn Russo, of Married to a Chef, posted this wonderful quote on her last post on the website called rootsofshe.com. I highly recommend checking out the full post here. I felt an instant connection to her words and this quote. I am a searcher. I have always been even as a child. I want to experience the world around me and see all the beauty it has to offer. Then offer it in return. I found the person that lets me have my wanderings but is always my grounding place...my home. We are gentle souls who develop thick skins to live in the realm of wolves. I am beyond excited find there are more of us out there!

It's friday lovelies.... what could be more beautiful than that! Wander on!

Monday, March 11, 2013

Monday Motivation


The spring is finally arriving and along with it the return of more sunshine! I don't know about you but by this time of the year I am fully feeling the seasonal "blues". Today was a beautiful 55 degrees with abundant sunshine. To celebrate Tom and I took our pup, Ganon, to beautiful Valley Forge National Park. We walked around in the sunshine and watched tons of others doing the same. Flying kites, having picnics, riding bikes, and basking in the glorious sun. In that moment, sitting on the grass, feeling the sun on my face, I felt free and blissfully happy. We all did! All the worries and stresses just melted away and life seemed simpler. The winter is leaving and new life is coming with the spring. (We even have flowers popping up in our garden!) I want to carry that feeling of bliss, of hope, of newness, of change with me into this week. I am choosing to be happy and am determined to keep it going no matter what happens. What are you going to make up your mind about this week?

Monday, March 4, 2013