Friday, June 14, 2013

You're exactly where you need to be

A random thought... What if every experience you’ve had was meant to lead you to this moment? The good, the bad, the confusing. What if you needed to go through all of them so you could be where you are today? What if those experiences gave you just the right tools to move forward in whatever is coming to you next? 

Let’s say your looking for Mr./Mrs. Right and all you’re finding is Mr./Mrs. Okay, or Right Now, or Sooo Wrong. Have you ever thought that maybe you needed to go through those relationships so you could be ready for Mr. Right? So that you will recognize Mr./Mrs. Right? I mean how do you know what you want if you don’t know what you don’t want? (Did ya follow that?)

What about that perfect job that you have been searching for? The one you have now is okay or maybe really crappy or just not the right thing. Well, what if you are learning just the right skills for the next opportunity? Or what if you are making just the right connections to that one person that is ready to offer you something new?

How would you think differently about your circumstances if you knew they were leading you exactly where you want to go? What can you learn or take away from where you are right now?

This theme keeps coming back to me lately. It’s probably because I’ve been doing a lot of self reflection but it’s even coming up in chats with others so I thought I’d share it with you in case you’ve been thinking it too. 

The universe is always helping you get somewhere. Have faith in the process. You're exactly where you need to be.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Good night Twenties

It’s the final eve on my twenties and I can’t help but do a  little reflecting. We had some seriously good times together me and my twenties, and some not so great ones that we learned a lot from.  I mean in general how crazy is it to reach 30? I know the 7 year old version of me would say “that’s so old!” but now approaching 30, I feel neither that it’s old or that I am. Though I do feel wiser. *wink, smile*

I feel like the twenties are a weird age. Great but weird. You’re learning to be an adult but still feel like a kid. Which is also why I’m totally excited for my 30’s! I’ve figured some stuff out by now and most importantly feel as though I have a pretty good grasp of who I am, who I want to be., and where I want to go. I mean, of course, I don’t have it all figured out but I feel way more comfy in my skin than I did a few years ago. What have I figured out? well here are just a few things, my twenties have taught me...

- You gotta listen to your gut. In both eating and intuition. when you’re full, stop and when your instinct tells you something, listen.

- You can love someone completely and still have to break their heart so that you can keep from breaking yourself. (This one is tough, and will take a while to work through if you have to learn it)

- You will love again.

- Don’t accept less than you deserve in a relationship because if you do, you’re settling and blocking your perfect person from finding you.

- Don’t drink the water in Mexico unless you live in Mexico. Just trust me. Don’t get ice in your drink either unless you know where the water came from to make it!

- Travel. It will open your mind.

- Love more, gossip less.

- Snuggling someone you love or a pet makes everything better.

- Adopt an animal, they will save your life.

- Spend time with yourself. How else will you get to know who you are?

- Care about yourself as if you were someone you love more than the world, because if you don’t take care of yourself first, you won’t have much to give to anyone else.

- Boston cream donuts, wacky cake, & french fry pizza are amazing.

- Be greatful. Always. It only brings more things to be greatful for!

- Take one step each day towards your dreams. There is never a right time to start so just start. 

- Figure out how to forgive things that happened in the past. You probably grew from the experience anyway and holding on to that anger isn’t healthy. Don’t drag in into the future with you. It’s not forgive and forget. It’s forgive, learn, and let go. 

- When you hit rock bottom, cry it out. Then know that the only way to go is up!

- Love with everything you have!

- Go to Disney World and ride in the front seat of the front car of space mountain. It’s so awesome. Then hit the Tiki Room. You’ll feel like you’re 5 again in no time!

- Be silly and have fun. 

- Take all advice with a grain of salt and listen to the ones that resonate with you.

- Exercise but do it in a fun way. It really does help ya live longer.

- Your thoughts control most of what comes into your life. So think good things!

- There is always another way.

- Talk to your grandma, she has some really cool stories and she won't be around forever. Plus she probably makes some fantastic angel food cake.

- Coffee. Need I say more? It starts your day, it says' "let's sit down and chat", it's a quiet moment to yourself, it's a celebration and it's delicious.

For me the thirties is about making choices for me. It's no longer about figuring out how I fit into this world. It's about owning my unique spirit and bringing that full on into the universe. It's no longer making choices for what others will say but making choices because it's right for me. That is probably the biggest lesson I learned in my twenties. 

"Make choices that are right for you. Listen to you're inner guidance system. Sometimes they are gonna be easy choices and sometimes they are going to be the hardest thing in the world but nothing and I mean nothing beats a life lived true to one's self. When you start doing that, the most miraculous things will show up! "

Twenties, We had some awesome times that I am never going to forget. Thanks for teaching me so much and sendign me so many awesome people. Now let’s go start a new chapter, learn some new things, and rock the thirties.

Have a fantastic tuesday folks! Feel free celebrate turnin' thirty with me today by doing something awesome for you! And leave me a comment with what you've learned so far! Any advice for a 30 year old??


Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Post- Surgery

There is nothing exciting about getting your gall bladder removed however it does provide you with some unique perspective on your life. I had surgery last thursday for lazy gall bladder that didn’t feel much like functioning and would rather upset my stomach than do it’s job. So I gave it the old kibosh! The hospital staff, nurses, and doctors were all just wonderful but the best support came from family and friends. Not to mention, my fantastic “in house nurse”  Tom. Seriously guys, he took one for the team!  

 The surgery it self is laproscopic so I only have 4 small incisions. The biggest is about an inch long. It blows my mind how they can do all that work through 4 tiny holes! (If you want to know more abut how it’s done google it. There are even cartoon videos) It’s still major surgery since they ARE actually removing an organ but the recovery time is only about a week.

  Recovering has it’s ups and downs. If you’ve ever had surgery of any kind I’m sure you have some idea of how it goes. Each day is better or worse depending on the stage of healing and your reaction to meds. (Note, Percocet and I are no longer friends and naps are encouraged) All in all though, I am on the mend and looking at the bright side because having surgery has given me a unique chance to be out of my normal routine.  No, it’s not all fun games but it is quiet time to reflect on what’s happening, on my goals, on where I am heading, on what I want. It’s down time with my fiancĂ© and our menagerie of animals. (There was a rare triple snuggle with 2 cats, 2 humans, and 1 dog all squeezed on a queen size bed.) It’s time to hear myself think for a bit with out distractions. It’s been nice just reading a book without the TV on in the back ground. 

It feels like I’m regaining my health and my mental strength at the same time. I swear european countries who give there employees 6 weeks sabbaticals have got the right of it. Having time off helps your mind take a vacation so you can bring more creativity and vibrance to your life or whatever your working on! It’s why we give kids the summer off, so they can recharge their over loaded brains and come back ready to learn more. I mean your brain needs a break just like your muscles do when you work them out really hard. So why are we so reluctant to use our vacation time or give it out if your a boss? (you’re employees will come back with even better ideas!) I'm very greatful to work for a company that does value time off!  What’s wrong with saying, I need a mental health day so I can come back refreshed and with new perspective?

 I vote we start taking vacation days and hearing our own minds again. We start spending a day doing “frivolous” thing we don’t allow ourselves to do on a normal day. Let’s paint, garden, draw, dance, sing, play a game, bake a cookie, or simply allow ourselves the space to just.. Be. I’m recovering from surgery and in allowing myself time to do that, I’m gaining more back than just a functioning body. No guilt, just healing. 

Give yourself time off to just be you. I can promise you won’t regret it.